If you have been looking for a manners matter book that actually helps — not a stiff list of rules a child forgets by dinner — this is the one. Teaching Kids Good Manners the Old-School Way is plain, warm, practical help for parents, grandparents, and teachers, written by a grandfather who has lived every page of it.
A manners book for real families, not perfect ones
Children today are growing up in a noisy, hurried world. Please and thank you can feel like they are slipping away. This book brings back the timeless values that still work — respect, kindness, and self-control — and shows you how to teach them without nagging or yelling. It is built for kids ages 3 to 12, and for the grown-ups raising them.
What you will find inside
- Simple, everyday lessons a busy parent can use the same night
- Word-for-word scripts for the moments that trip families up
- Gentle, firm ways to correct a child without shaming them
- Habits that turn good manners into second nature, not a fight
- A warm, faith-friendly tone that respects your family’s values
Why parents and grandparents trust this book
Teaching Kids Good Manners the Old-School Way holds a 4.8-star rating from more than 100 readers. It was written by Vernon J. DeFlanders Sr., a U.S. Air Force veteran and grandfather who spent his life teaching, leading, and raising respectful young people. He writes the way a wise grandfather talks: warm, honest, and easy to follow.
Get your copy
Start with one chapter tonight. You will see the difference in how your child treats the people around them — and in how calm your home feels.
Want a taste first? Try our free manners toolkits for kids, or read more on the blog. Manners matter now — and this book makes them easier to teach.